Holly Paymon, P.h.D | Clinical Psychologist
Holly Paymon, P.h.D
Clinical Psychologist

Therapy for Children 0-8 Years
and Families in Los Angeles

PCIT for Toddlers and Preschool Children

Navigating the "Big Emotions"
of the Early Years

Biting, kicking, hair-pulling, and epic 30+ minute meltdowns are often dismissed as "just a phase." But when toddler defiance begins to dictate your entire day — or gets your child asked to leave daycare — it's time for a specialized approach. PCIT is the gold standard for the 2–4 age group, offering an action-based, virtual intervention that matches a toddler's developmental stage.

Moving Past Logic to Action-Based Play

Toddlers undergo a massive explosion of emotional growth before their linguistic skills are fully developed. They experience profound frustration but lack the neurological wiring to “talk it out” or comprehend abstract consequences. Traditional discipline methods — long lectures, distant time-outs, or reasoning — simply confuse them, frequently escalating the very tantrums you are trying to stop.

The Telehealth PCIT Solution: Toddlers learn best through immediate, concrete action and environmental consistency. This is why virtual PCIT (I-PCIT) is incredibly effective for this age demographic. Rather than uprooting your toddler to a clinic — which often triggers overstimulation or false “perfect” behavior — we coach you during their actual playtime at home. We help you establish structural boundaries directly on your living room floor, showing your toddler’s developing brain exactly where the limits lie through clear, unwavering routines.

Toddler Behavioral Challenges We Address

Transforming Toddler Chaos into Household Harmony

Aggressive Outbursts

Biting, hitting caregivers or peers, scratching, throwing toys, and hair-pulling during transitions.

Extended, Inconsolable Tantrums

Screaming, breath-holding, or dropping to the floor that lasts long after the initial trigger has passed.

Severe Transition Defiance

Massive battles when leaving the house, transitioning from play, sitting in a car seat, or beginning mealtime or bedtime.

Hyper-Dependent Whining

Chronic, attention-seeking crying or screaming that disrupts the family's ability to function.

How PCIT Directly Reshapes Toddler Behavior

Shaping Behavior Through Immediate Reinforcement

Amplifying Positive Behaviors

CDI Phase

Toddlers crave attention above all else. We coach you to use the PRIDE skills to turn up the volume on their quiet, cooperative moments — making “being good” highly rewarding and engaging.

The Strategic Pivot

Selective Attention

We teach you how to immediately withdraw attention from minor, attention-seeking misbehaviors (like whining or fake crying) and instantly flood them with praise the exact second they stop — rewiring their behavioral choices.

Age-Appropriate Limits

PDI Phase

We introduce simplified, highly predictable boundaries that teach toddlers how to follow single, direct commands — without causing emotional trauma or fracturing the parent-child bond.

You Don't Have to Just "Survive" These Years

It is incredibly isolating to feel like you are failing at parenting a 3-year-old, or to feel embarrassed to take your child to a park. Please breathe a sigh of relief — toddler behaviors are highly malleable. They are simply testing their world with primitive tools. PCIT gives you a clinical blueprint to replace the chaos with connection, making the early years joyful again.

Bring Peace to the Toddler Years

Don’t wait for them to “grow out of it.” Establish a foundation of cooperation and connection that will serve your child for a lifetime.